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ShadowNightz
Ready To Glow?
July 22, 2014, 06:39:pm
Niazja Blessed Rios knows all the right places to paint your body and she'll be turning you into devilish masterpieces at Exile: Ultra-Violet Blacklight Party! FREE EVENT! THIS THURSDAY!



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Rache_Engel
just happened
July 22, 2014, 02:12:pm
If you got (your own) blood and orange juice at the same time on your hands... does that make it bloodorange juice then?

Mood: amused

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GothicLolita666

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just happened
July 22, 2014, 02:22:pm
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No but it sounds really really really delicious.
PaganXWinteress
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just happened
July 22, 2014, 02:28:pm
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gross brother

Rache_Engel

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just happened
July 22, 2014, 02:35:pm
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accidently cut myself on a broken bottle of orange juice at work^^

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roland
Glowy spikes
July 22, 2014, 07:45:am
For all you guys into glowy things:

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Dirt_in_the_ground

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Glowy spikes
July 22, 2014, 05:00:pm
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That's pretty cool. Very tempted...damn you.

Aratiuncula

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Glowy spikes
July 22, 2014, 11:55:pm
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cool

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Sub-Rosa
you're so vain you probably think this journal is about you
July 19, 2014, 12:48:am
Do you find there is this trend these days of women being so stuck up on VF?

Do you find that just because they have somewhat of an attractive body they act like they are to cool to give you the time of day?

Whats the deal ? Is this my imagination ? Or are there really a lot of stuck up and vain women on here?

Personally, I feel that there is a increasing trend of stuck up women and teenage brats and I am fucking fed up with it.

Oh yeah, way too many. And for no good reason either.

Growing up my mother and father always reminded me that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and when you cross it you often times don't even know it, which is why you have to listen to your friends when they put you in check.

i know 5 girls in particular who are crazy hot and omg! they couldn't be more stuck up their own assholes if they lived there!

they think because they are beautiful they have some right to have whatever they want and treat people whatever way they want!

They have gotten everything in their life solely based on their looks.

They are insecure and need to try and control every situation they are in by making most men (and sometimes other women) feel lower than them.
these girls to me are like spoiled children all I've had to do is lay the law on them and not take their shit and they end up being pretty nice people to be around after a while.( this doesn't work so well online but).

the funny thing is these girls almost always end up with guys that they can control and manipulate.

That is very unfortunate because basically what they found is not true love ( and it's unlikely they'll ever find it unless their attitude changes), but an insecure moron who will put up their arrogance just because they look good(which won't last forever).

I have said it before and I WILL say it again; the worst, most unattractive, obnoxious of all women is the self proclaimed "divas" and "princesses". The only way to deal with these women is to completely ignore them. Don't try to tell them anything especially about their behavior it will only fuel their attitude. I mean completely ignore them, and I mean everyone ignore them. Act as if they are not even there and hopefully they will either find some humility or simply just go away knowing that no one wants to be around them or know them. They seem to exist in this dream world where somehow being in their company is a privilege that they are bestowing upon people. Hopefully they will realize that others don't see it as a privilege but a plague.I blame men too in this, if guys stopped rewarding them with attention and ass kissing these girls, there would be less of them and they would come back down to planet earth. since everyone in their life has always given them what they wanted a reality check is long overdue.

I think now-a-days women are more this way due to media influence ( and possibly pseudo-feminism as well).
They feel empowered by their sex appeal,which isn't a bad thing BUT the problem is, every guy gives them so much attention it *skyrockets* their self esteem and makes them feel like goddesses.they're on such a high pedestal that they've got their head in the clouds.
Guys give them all that attention because these women spend hours and hours in the gym and in front of the mirror for the perfect look. the check their face and ass every 7 minutes and 32 seconds. They try on 50 pairs of jeans and choose the one which makes their ass look perfect( and then complain that people are checking them out all the time which i find hilarious).

Its not always because of sex appeal though. Sometimes its because they were spoiled or still are spoiled by their parents. Maybe they have family problems and take it out through their attitude. There are many reason why you see this, and a lot of times it can be sex appeal but there is sometimes more behind it.

to be fair in the real world i've found over time that not every girl who comes across as snobby actually is. Some are shy, a lot of people put on a pretense of "confidence" to cover up the truth, others have family or other issues that make them behave a certain way... hell people often used to think I was snobby because I can be really shy at times myself.
I understand the line between confidence and arrogance but I always thought stuck-up women (and men), were not fully rounded out individuals. It's like they don't understand other people or certain topics, so they ignore it and pretend its not important. i.e. they're stupid and think they are better. They perfect what they know, all the superficial shit, into an art form that does get them a good looking man, a decent job, the nicest clothes and car. Of course, other women see this and think damn what am I doing wrong? They'll figure it out and copy those techniques. more divas. I've seen it more in women, and I've never been able to hold anything but the most meaningless of conversation with these types ( if they bother to give you the time of day at all). So, I avoid them! I never understood why a man would date them. And yeah, my opinion of that man does go down a few notches when I see them falling for those chicks. Yeah, those women are usually pretty hot,but it's usually a case of pretty packaging with no content. hell what kind of conversations do these people have?

confidence versus arrogance! so many girls these days are so arrogant. I'm attracted to beautiful women but personality matters. as soon as they become arrogant it's a huuuuuuuuuge turn off. Even if they look like a Victoria Secret Super Model or a Suicide girl if they are arrogant it makes me want to puke.
I think a lot of girls mistake being stuck up for confidence though. They don't get that there's a difference between liking who you are and thinking you look good.
and you superficial barbie dolls ( c'mon the black clothes and hair dye aren't fooling anyone) need to understand this.




















Mood: fed up but somewhat amused
Music: PARKWAY DRIVE - Picture Perfect, Pathetic/ Eminem-puke

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ShadowNightz
Because Badass
July 18, 2014, 05:32:pm

Get Your Pair Here!


Mood: Motivated
Music: Sanctuary Radio

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Lasluna

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Because Badass
July 20, 2014, 07:50:pm
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I am going to hold off for awhile until demonia improves there quality of their products. Don't get me wrong they look fantastic, but they seem to fall apart after a few years.

DelaTrance

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Because Badass
July 20, 2014, 07:54:pm
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I still haven't worn out my Demonia Pole climbers. But one zipper on my left boot broke fairly fast not that it matters as the zipper on the steel toe serves no function but aside that they're holding up quite well and i'm happy with em :-)

NingyoBroken

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Because Badass
July 20, 2014, 08:30:pm
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Love! But can't afford

MartinNightmares

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Because Badass
July 20, 2014, 08:34:pm
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Im going to buy these actually right now have someone in mind for them

vampineze

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Because Badass
July 21, 2014, 03:29:pm
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omg i want some

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ShadowNightz
Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 18, 2014, 12:00:pm
How about this little cutie for your desk-top?
Might be a romantic gift for your lover too, especially if they like skeletons and Bones!



Mood: Mellow
Music: Sanctuary Radio

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The_Grudge1986

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Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 19, 2014, 02:11:pm
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Very cool!

dead_bettie

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Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 19, 2014, 10:11:pm
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That's cute!

pinup_x_isis

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Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 20, 2014, 07:00:pm
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Looks like a fun project to make though. :-)

Jezubus

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Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 20, 2014, 10:04:pm
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I like it

mauigirl

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Skeleton and Bones Romance
July 20, 2014, 10:47:pm
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that is awesome! great gift idea too

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ShadowNightz
Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 15, 2014, 11:40:am
Good Morning fellow VampireFreaks,

Today, we'll start you off with this awesome Skull head swivel desk lamp.
Very cool! Can you get away with this bit of morbidity where you work?
We can't think of anyone we know that wouldn't want this piece around their work space.






Mood: Enlightened
Music: Sanctuary Radio

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Runit

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Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 17, 2014, 11:52:am
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Does he talk back to us?

Melancholik_Nostalgy

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Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 17, 2014, 04:28:pm
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Too bad i'm not working at a bureau, caus' i'd have this

RAWR-its-Travis

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Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 18, 2014, 01:08:am
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where could I buy this

Anabela_Dawn_Riddler

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Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 19, 2014, 09:31:am
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it really looks cool!

Vamprina

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Skull Head Swivel Desk Lamp
July 21, 2014, 12:09:am
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murphy13 Sorry I was trying to reply to you on here not your profile.

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the_vampire_heart
Slipknot
July 14, 2014, 08:25:pm
Well they are my all time favorite band and I'm one of their true fans.

Right now they are currently working on a new album. So far they have only announced Knotfest for California and in Japan.


Good thing I have a job. And nothing will stop me from seeing them or even meeting them.

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live_wire

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Slipknot
July 16, 2014, 01:57:pm
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Your so lucky! knotfest isnt coming here :-(

the_vampire_heart

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Slipknot
July 16, 2014, 01:59:pm
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But they will be back at the Brixton Arena where they played at in 2002 and multiple times at Download Festival in your country.

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ShadowNightz
Luxury Cave?
July 14, 2014, 11:26:am
This is supposed to be one of the most romantic hotels in the world, but for the wrong reasons. The Minesuite Sala Hotel is actually an ideal spot for dark themed lovers or fans of artistic places, what with it's dark, black walls and matching furnishings.
We thought it was a pretty sweet spot for some romance ;-)
Have you been to this location or one similar to it?
What is your ideal romantic hotel around the world?



Mood: Motivated
Music: Sanctuary Radio

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Silver.Wolf

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Luxury Cave?
July 17, 2014, 07:27:pm
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way cool looking. would love to go there

Stray

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Luxury Cave?
July 17, 2014, 09:15:pm
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..oh my gods. Crazy Bear at Beaconsfield. Do. WANT. Money... WHERE YA AT

Phoenix__Wright

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Luxury Cave?
July 17, 2014, 10:45:pm
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Sounds like an ideal vacation.

ShadowNightz

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Luxury Cave?
July 17, 2014, 10:53:pm
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yeah man tell me about it!! daydream

LittleRabidRedhead

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Luxury Cave?
July 18, 2014, 08:32:am
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It's gorgeous! I'd go.. if that rug is a faux ;-) I'm not into the whole animal skin on the floor thing.

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ShadowNightz
Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 11, 2014, 07:38:pm
Check out this amazing stone-cast sculpture of Belial,
one of the four crown princes of Hell. A great piece for fans of hell's army.
We thought this was good work of art, how do you guys feel about?



Music: MSI - It

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Mooncrypt93

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Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 12, 2014, 02:09:pm
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Looks very good!

death_by_glance09

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Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 13, 2014, 02:30:pm
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Beautiful.

Panzer_Euphoria

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Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 13, 2014, 05:30:pm
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that is amazing, and it looks familiar too , don't know why

Melancholik_Nostalgy

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Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 14, 2014, 12:09:am
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somebody knows about the material... some kind of resine?

sykofreek

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Stone-Cast Sculpture Of Belial
July 15, 2014, 02:29:pm
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COOL! goth

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Sub-Rosa
concerning "soft grunge".
July 10, 2014, 03:15:am
Soft grunge' is a subset of tumblr trends that has emerged and become driven by typically young users who mistake upside crosses, satanic iconography, and fashion photography with the grunge movement which developed from the early 90s Seattle music scene.

A quick search of the tag reveals emaciated girls, striking awkward poses with their knees buckled and their hair in their face. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with the actual imagery—what’s problematic is its association to grunge, which has also been butchered in definition by some members of the Tumblr community.
'Soft grunge' is essentially images of girls wearing Nirvana shirts, standing in the middle of nowhere, rendered under a pastel filter and featured on some blog pleading for a “follow 4 follow~*~”; a principle explicitly contradictory to the one that the grunge movement attempted to promote and if you agreed with me, apparently, you’re completely wrong.

Everyone worships existentialism as long as it has shiny packaging, with pretty people saying poetic things while a single tear runs down their cheek.

What I never understood, though, was the need to label certain movements in fashion as something they’re obviously not. It all started some years ago, when I came across a photograph in Seventeen magazine of a girl in a long, red-and-brown skirt, with a brown tank top, a white shrug, and flip-flops. In a field. This had to be a resurrection of the early 1970’s Bohemian, right?well if you agreed with me,you’re appearntly completely wrong again.

It was an ‘original’ style called “classy punk”, which is a slight, and by slight I mean glaring, oxymoron. Punk is supposed revolution, a representative of the chaos we live in and the desire to overthrow that, but in music form. When you hear it, it evokes the whole challenging-the-Man look, until the Man got a hold of the term and hijacked it.

Because when I want to stick it to the Man, I need a $420 tye dye t-shirt and a Chanel clutch.

Nowadays, since ‘hipsters’ run the (cultured) world, there’s been a rise in what’s called “soft grunge”, or worse, “clean grunge” and “pastel goth”. This is an insult to the music genre of grunge, seeing as it’s not the point of grunge AT ALL. The only thing the two might have in common is Seattle, but as Wikipedia points out, the music is “a fusion of punk, alternative, and heavy metal…Lyrics are typically angst-filled, often addressing themes such as social alienation, apathy, frustration, sadness, fear, and depression”.

Apathy and depression, now in pastel blue!!!

Over the Memorial Day Holiday weekend, though, something wonderful happened. Faced with the insult to the music they loved, grunge fans decided to invade the Tumblr ‘soft grunge’ tag with as much force as possible. Sickened by the hipsters who wear their band tees while having listened to all of one song, fans of Journey, The Rolling Stones, and Pink Floyd joined in for a brilliant collective trolling effort. It’s good to see different genres and eras of classic rock banding together for a greater purpose. As a huge fan of Syd-Barrett-era-Pink-Floyd, I knew the hipster girls rocking the Dark Side of the Moon shirts while loving that “we don’t need no education” song was only the beginning. I was afraid that the Man would knock down the memory of Rick Wright, and of course, Syd, for the sake of fashion.

To be fair, I think I’m attracted to mad geniuses with big eyes, dishevelled hair, and enough criteria in the DSM-V to play Bingo with.

As friend of mine once said, “I feel like this is revenge for all the times they put weed on the cover of Dark Side of the Moon”. This is much bigger than a rejection of twisting something to be ‘chic’, it’s a war against making music something removed from, well, music. It’s a notion that art is being disrespected to feed another form of art. I don’t mean to make a gathering of silly pictures more philosophical than intended, or hail this as culturally significant, but it shows a growing resentment to the whole expression-without-source movement. There’s a worry that years down the line, people will forget the influence of this music, and recreate it, but much, much worse.

Somehow, I'm inclined to agree.

Mood: observant
Music: Mudhoney - you got it (keep it out of my face)

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Sub-Rosa
you are not a fucking princess.
July 10, 2014, 02:41:am
princess complex
An attitude fed to women by the media and other females
that bestows upon them illusions of superiority and selfishness. Also brought on to many attractive females over time by means of many males who have ventured into the friend zone by catering to the respective female's every beck and call.


In my ponderings over relationship issues, I noticed that a lot of girls have what I like to call Princess Complex, where they think they are entitled to happiness, material wealth, and anything they want from their boyfriend (or they are entitled to own their BF). This is obviously not ideal, but it seems to be fairly common when talking to buddies from either gender.

Are these chicks permanently like this, or is it a phase?

Depends on the girl. Some get a good slap in the face around 30 when Prince Charming hasn't arrived and the baby clock starts ticking.

Can't blame them though. It's the guys fault for putting them on such a high pedastal.

I'd probably be the same if I had dudes constantly sniffing around me (oh wait! yes i do my inbox is full of them but i'm not a prima donna about it so what gives?)

Screw that. I don't even want to get into your pants, why should I put up with that kind of behaviour? Act like that and you don't get to go next time.

i am sick and tired of this belief that women (especially the pretty ones)can do no wrong.
I've even heard young women say that they are administering payback for the crimes of the patriarchal era, even though they weren't yet born then, as a justification for unchallenged female power and the accompanying emotional, psychological, and legal abuse that seems to be woman's particular stronghold (as opposed to the traditional physical abuse by men).

I’ve noticed many double standards and gender inequities in relationships that are culturally acceptable. Here are some of my observations for women to consider in terms of their own behavior and for men to consider in terms of their own enlightenment when it comes to women and relationships. The following points don’t apply to all women, however, they apply to enough of them that they’re part of our faulty cultural belief system. Hey ladies (and you know who you are):

1. You are not a princess. You do not deserve to be treated like royalty just by virtue of your sex. You deserve to be treated no better or worse than you treat others.

2. You are not any more “special” nor any more “entitled” than anyone else. You don’t deserve special privileges and nobody “owes” you anything by virtue of who you are or because of your gender.

3. You are just as “lucky” to have found your husband/boyfriend as he was to find you. Have you ever considered that there are times when you are lucky that he puts up with and tolerates you?

4. Men have feelings, too. They hurt just as much as you do when you criticize, reject, dismiss, ignore, make fun of, disrespect, invalidate and/or mock them. In fact, they may hurt more because they don’t have as many emotional outlets as you—especially if you tell him his feelings “don’t count” or to “be a man” when he expresses his feelings that you mistakenly claim he doesn’t have and/or is “wrong” for having. He has feelings and he has a right to them even when they’re not the same as yours and/or are expressed differently than you express yours.

5. If it’s okay for you to have male friends and maintain friendships with your exes, it’s also okay for your husband/boyfriend to have female friends and maintain friendships with his exes. It is not different for you because “you’re a woman.” It’s faulty logic to suppose women are inherently more trustworthy than men. This is called a double standard and it’s not okay. Otherwise, the culturally acceptable pronouncement, “Men are all dogs” should be met with “Women are all bitches” (i.e., female dogs) and should be equally culturally acceptable.

6. A father is just as important in a child’s life as a mother. Period. Just because you have a uterus doesn’t make you the better parent by default.

7. Children are not “hers” and “his” objects. The correct possessive pronoun is “ours.”

8. Your husband/boyfriend does not “owe” you. He shouldn’t be expected to financially support you and shower you with gifts unless you’re willing to reciprocate and equally support him without question or complaint. You’re neither his child nor his dependent. You’re supposed to be his equal partner.

9. Your husband’s/boyfriend’s desires, needs, wishes, feelings, likes and dislikes are just as important as yours. It’s not all about you all the time. You’re supposedly in a mutual and reciprocal relationship; not a service industry/client-vendor relationship.

10. If you’re not willing to make changes in yourself and your behavior, you’ve no right to demand that your husband/boyfriend do so. Nor is it reasonable to demand or expect your husband/boyfriend to make all the changes you want first before you’re willing to do your own work.

11. You are not a better human being by virtue of being a woman. You’re not a goddess. You’re not a sacred cow. You don’t “rule.” You’re a person, just like your husband/boyfriend is a person. You both deserve to be treated with equal dignity and respect when you act and treat each other with dignity and respect.

12. It’s a lie and a manipulation to say you “sacrificed” your career when you never really wanted to work in the first place. If you see your husband/boyfriend as your ticket to freedom from being a wage slave, be honest with yourself and your husband/boyfriend and most important of all, BE GRATEFUL. Having another person pay your way through life is not an inalienable right; it’s an enormous gift for which you should express gratitude on a regular basis.

13. It is wrong to use your child(ren) to hurt, control or extort money from your husband/boyfriend/ex. In fact, it borders on child abuse. Children are not pawns or human shields to be used for your own selfish reasons. They’re people who will later grow to resent you for using them in this fashion and will likely develop psychological problems of their own as a result.

14. It is wrong to expect or demand that your ex continue to financially support you after the relationship ends. The children are entitled to support until they become adults at the age of 18. You’re already an adult and, as such, you’re capable of and should legally be expected to take care of yourself— unless you’re willing to continue to support your ex by doing his grocery shopping, cooking cleaning, errands, etc. If your obligations to your husband are finished after a divorce, his obligations to you should also be finished.

15. Your husband/boyfriend is not responsible for your happiness. It isn’t his job to make you happy; that’s your job. Just as he is responsible for his own happiness. He’s supposed to be your equal partner, not your emotional wet nurse.

16. The desire for sex in a committed, loving relationship is healthy and natural. Using sex to control, shame or hurt your husband/boyfriend by withholding affection or making sex transactional is unhealthy and wrong.

17. Your husband/boyfriend should be more important to you than your child(ren) just as you should be more important to your husband than the child(ren). In other words, you should be each others’ first priorities; children second. You don’t need a husband if your sole desire is to have children—unless you see the man as a source of income for yourself and the children. If you can’t support yourself, you probably shouldn’t be having children. Marriage is a bond between two grown adults; not a bond between parent and child (Marc Rudov, 2008). You vow to honor your spouse and put him or her before all others, this includes your children. Children eventually fly the coop. If you make them the focus and raison d’être of your marriage, don’t be surprised when you no longer have much of a marriage as the years pass.

18. You are only entitled to what you earn or produce. Men are neither beasts of burden nor “working boys” to be pimped out in the service of their partners or ex-partners. No one owes you a living. As an adult, you’re not entitled to be taken care of by another party unless you have documented cognitive or physical disabilities that prohibit you from working. Last time I checked, being a wife, ex-wife, girlfriend, ex-girlfriend, mistress, ex-mistress, mother and/or simply a woman wasn’t considered a disability.

19. It is just as ABUSIVE when a woman slaps, kicks, hits, spits at, scratches, shoves, pushes, punches, pulls hair, uses a weapon, swings a golf club at or throws objects at a man. It isn’t funny, cute, justifiable or deserved. It is indefensible, inexcusable, criminal and just as prosecutable as when a man acts violently toward a woman. Period.

20. The same goes for emotional abuse. It is unacceptable.

21. It is neither “normal” nor “acceptable” adult female behavior to throw temper tantrums, withhold sex, cry, rage, pout, have disproportionate reactions to events or be unable to control emotions and behaviors. At the very least, these are signs of emotional lability and poor impulse control; at worst, these are indicators of serious pathology and quite possibly some kind of personality disorder.

22. It is not okay to divert money from your joint checking/savings account(s) or open credit cards in your husband’s/boyfriend’s name without his knowledge and explicit permission. The first instance is stealing and the second is considered identity theft and fraud. Signing your husband’s/boyfriend’s signature to financial and legal documents is forgery. All of these actions are illegal.

23. It is irresponsible to live beyond your means and abusive to expect your husband/boyfriend to foot the bill or go into debt to cover your expenses. If you can’t responsibly use a credit/debit card then, much like a child, you shouldn’t have one.

24. It is never acceptable or permissible to threaten to deny your husband/boyfriend/ex access to the children you share. It is not okay to make up abuse allegations because you’re feeling angry, hurt or out of control. This is an act of slander (spoken) or libel (written) and if you swear to it in court, it’s also an act of perjury.

25. It is not fair to commit to or marry a man and then try to change him. If you don’t accept him as he is, just like you expect him to accept you and your faults, then you have no business being with him. Everyone has a right to feel accepted for who he or she is in a relationship. If he’s “not good enough” for you from the get go; keep looking and cut him loose so he can be with a woman who appreciates him.

All of these observations seem self-evident to me, which leads me to ponder how did we get here and what needs to be done about it?



Mood: over it
Music: Queen-death on two legs

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Sub-Rosa
Stop faking mental illness!
July 04, 2014, 02:59:am
I'm not generalising but it seems a lot of people are exaggerating simple symptoms. For example, one particular girl was saying something like "Oh, yeah, I'm a sociopath." I asked her what she meant she said "Well I lie all the time to get what I want and stuff like that." but I really don't believe the bubbly, social butterfly is sociopath. It's as though having a mental disorder has now been romanticised! So many are claiming they have OCD and social anxiety etc and it's like a slap in the face to people who really suffer those symptoms. But what happened for it to suddenly sprout out that having a mental disorder pretty much makes you 'unique' (as if it's a battle to be the most unique..)?

the appropriation of mental illness is troubling.It drives me insane to no end. Mental disorders aren't cute or fun. They're miserable, and I bet if those people actually had one they wouldn't be bragging about it. i know people who have been suffering with depression for a couple of years now and it's honestly so hard. It's like you can't tell anyone about it, because then they may feel like their support is inadequate and you don't want them to feel that way. It's miserable knowing that you can't talk to anyone, no matter how bad you want to, but you have so many things going on in your head that you need to get out. Social anxiety isn't "cute" or "quirky" either. It's not so cool when you start sweating and shaking when you have to talk in front of your group of friends, or when it looks like you're winded just from walking up the stairs at school because you had a panic attack from the large number of people on the stairs.

Mental disorders aren't really unique either, so many people *legitimately* suffer from depression, anxiety and OCD. Which is why I don't get why people think it makes them quirky or different. There's a difference between sadness and depression, anxiety disorder and stressing over a particular thing, being OCD and being careful/clean etc. I wish more people would get their heads out of their a&&'s, so that people who actually need to get help can do so without a bunch of melodramatic people belittling the issues and making them seem "fake"

I’m not often shocked, but I almost spat my breakfast into my monitor when I read that A THIRD of special snowflakes aged 12 to 17 have admitted FAKING mental illnesses, seeing them as “trendy” and contributing to their idea of themselves as “unique”, according the the online therapy service Mentaline.com.

I have another website on Tumblr, which is a semi-social network/blog mashup. One of the features of Tumblr is the “dashboard,” where the posts of the other Tumblr blogs (we’re supposed to call them “Tumblogs” but I refuse because I’m not four years old) show up. Also you can see who “liked” your posts, who reblogged them, etc. Anyway, I’ve noticed that there are a lot of teenagers on Tumblr, and one thing they seem to have in common is they all seem to have a collection of psychological problems of some sort: some specific, for which they are undergoing various types of medical treatment; some vague and diffuse and seeming more like the sort of neurotic fantasizing meant to show them up as special, delicate flowers (these would be the blogs with lots of photos of wistful, soft-focus girls in nighties and knee socks, like the cover of a cd by one of those groups with a big-eyed female singer with a whispery voice).

And it’s not just Tumblr. Look across the internet; almost invariably if the blog is by a teenage girl she will describe herself using the language of psychiatry, or at least her posts will come across as the sort of thing Blanche Du Bois would have written in her teen diary if she had been a real person. This phenomenon isn’t entirely limited to teenage girls; some older girls (in their twenties, when they can sign for their own Prozac prescriptions) and teenage and older boys do indulge. Of the latter, though, there doesn’t seem to be as many examples, probably because the need to be a helpless head case who needs tender loving care still isn’t fashionable among young males.

This is turning into one of those “kids these days” “Get off my lawn!” posts, but really, I can think of a million reasons for the younger generation to pull their heads out of their asses and quit moaning on about their (mostly fake) horrible lives. But that wouldn’t get them the attention and coddling they apparently crave, for some reason which eludes me. I always hated being paid attention to. It meant I had to behave, and worry about what other people wanted, instead of just being left alone to do my own thing.
so here's some points to consider........

*It’s okay to feel sad or angry or confused and express those emotions.

*It’s not okay to glorify these emotions and perpetuate the idea that constantly feeling negative is somehow glamorous.

*Misery doesn’t automatically equate to individuality. Being happy or even ambivalent about life does not make you boring.

*You don’t have to be depressed to be beautiful or worthy of someone else’s attention. Hell, you don’t have to be beautiful, period. Beauty should not dictate your social value.

In fairness, you may be one of the bloggers that genuinely has a mental illness. This is directed at the kids who throw around the terms “depression” and “anxiety” every week as shiny new personality add-ons.

If you can selectively channel an emotion at will, it’s not mental illness.

You’re consciously performing a feeling for a deliberately chosen audience to make a desired impression. Genuine mental illness does not work that way.

Think of it like this: You wake up every morning and decide to put clothes on. You choose what you want – hoodie if you want to be cozy, dress and/or tie if you want to be fancy, and whatever shoes are practical or pleasing. At the end of the day, you take them off. That’s a mood, a feeling.

Now imagine that you’re forced to wear an undershirt against your will, as though it’s fused to your skin. On bad days, you despise it, and on good days, you find it annoying at best, but you can never take it off because it’s a part of you.

It doesn’t matter whether or not you want to wear it or what your environment is like or who’s around you.

Regardless of how you or anyone else feels, that fucking undershirt is there to stay, and you have to learn to live with it, even if no one else understands why it’s there. Even if you don’t want to admit that it’s there.

That’s mental illness.

This is where the distinction between fakers and mental illness community becomes so crucial – because you’re marginalizing the voices and perspectives of people who really do suffer from mental illness.

Worse still, you’re arbitrarily naming yourself their poster child and advertising a candy-coated placebo as their “authentic” experience.

That so-called social anxiety that makes you so dorky and cute and lovable? There’s another person who’s locked themselves in the bathroom because the mere thought of human interaction makes them physically ill.

That picture of a beautiful actress insisting that she has no reason to live? There’s someone debating whether or not it’s worth it to wake up tomorrow.

It also doesn’t help that only impossibly gorgeous people are validated in their sadness.

We need to stop sending the message that you have to be special to be unhappy or unhappy to be special. The belief that chronic emotional instability makes you sexier or more charismatic is ridiculous.

Why would you purposely surround yourself with people who intentionally fixate on cynicism and a culture that thrives on preaching absolute worthlessness?

I’m all for critiquing society and raging against the machine, but not if it involves the asinine adolescent notion that our sense of purpose should go down the toilet if our crush doesn’t like us back.
‘Sad Chic’ Brings Others Down

When you inflame universal insecurities and turn misery into propaganda, it takes on a greater meaning beyond finding a creative outlet for your personal worries.

In effect, you are encouraging unregulated and unhealthy psychological responses because you present emotions as a pendulum and thereby trivialize moderate emotional responses as insignificant.

this ideology makes you feel shitty about not feeling shitty enough.

You can’t be sad; you have to be depressed. You can’t be angry; you have to be on the verge of mental collapse. You can’t be bored; you have to be questioning why you exist.

Of course, everything conveniently circles back to fueling more self-doubt and hopelessness.

And you know what? That’s a really fucking terrible mentality.

Sure, growing up sucks. Responsibilities are stressful, the job market is abysmal, and your crush probably isn’t plotting to throw rocks at your window and profess their undying love. The world doesn’t have an answer to our every want and need.

We’re all human.

Things are going to make us upset and piss us off on a daily basis, but that doesn’t mean every tiny event has to cause a seismic shift in our outlook.

You feel emotions, and you move on.

just Because you were saddened by something that won’t matter next year, next month, or even next week. you don’t have to declare yourself a lost cause forever to justify gradually processing through a feeling.

Everyone needs to allow themselves a certain flexibility of emotion to properly function in daily life.

Self-doubt and sadness are normal in small doses.

Be Critical of Trends

Sometimes it is possible to separate style from dogma. Dye your hair pink, wear your Nirvana T-shirts and your Doc Martens, whatever.

But understand one thing: Mental illness is not a style.

Recognize the damage that trends can do to marginalized communities.

People with mental illness have a difficult enough time being heard without you claiming that you’re speaking for them.

Have a little empathy for others that isn’t driven by a personal marketing campaign.
you professional victims need to find a better passtime.

Mood: get off my lawn
Music: KoRn ami going crazy/hey daddy

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raggamuffin

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Stop faking mental illness!
July 04, 2014, 04:56:am
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Ehat do you expect when young people feel the need to be different and have the internet at their fingertips. Google alone can create hypochondriacs. So it stands to reason a lot of impressionable and insignificant teens conjure up notions they have some form of condition.

asphynxi8

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July 04, 2014, 05:13:am
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*applause* this really grinds my gears. I'd love to not have to remember to take meds, spend money on them & always be told to see a shrink... Again. I'd like to be able to feel happiness & sadness when the feelings are warranted, not hypermania then total devastation every 15 minutes. Mental illnesses are not fun kids! Next they'll be pretending to have diabetes :/

raggamuffin

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July 04, 2014, 05:20:am
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Therapy is invaluable. but you get out what you put in and moist people can't be 100% honest with their therapists which wastes yours and their time. I'd recommend reading a book by Dr Schubiner called Unlearn Your Pain. It's invaluable for anyone with anxiety, OCD, PTSD, depression, Hypochondria, Fibromylgia etc.I read and recorded the first 2 chapters:The reading isn't perfect, couple of..."distractions".http://vocaroo.com/i/s0pbOTldsn2Lhttp://vocaroo.com/i/s0agoeUAec8z

raggamuffin

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Also something to note - if you believe you have a condition enough, the nerve pathways in your brain will wire themselves so much so that you actually get the pains and symptoms of the conditions you fear. So whilst people might be faking conditions, others may genuinely have so much stress that their bodies are mimicking symptoms. I've been in pain every moment of every day all over my body for 4 years due to anxiety. The mind can create and pain imaginable and this is curable, but it takes time and dedication.That book I recommended is a 28 day intensive programme which should see impressive results.

FrancescaDolly

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July 04, 2014, 09:24:pm
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I dont think anyone should tell these people what it is like because they are doing it out of some sort of insecurity and might have body diamorphia disorder... Believe me bby, i know its annoying a lot of my friends are the same way and its very sad to see it happening. But society these days are aimming immature thoughts and morbid, sick, twisted ideas towards kids, teens and, young adults. What people don't know is that it locks in the subconscious. It has come to a point that people are actually using social networking as entertainment, and Facebook was actually created to indirectly harass people so there is no escape unless you literally get rid of every single technology device you have. I have done that for a while and to be perfectly honest I was a lot happier because I didn't have some fucking bum in a basement telling me about their little minor worries and troubles. It's just a matter of completely ignoring those people. They know what their doing is wrong, its sad they don't care about the people who are actually going through these sort of problems. But the fact of the matter is I think if anyone seriously has depression, anxiety or any sort of mental illness this post may trigger certain things and its really not good because they might get anxiety just reading this, baby...If anything and I never thought these words would leave my mouth but I think society has victimized majority of the kids with all the lies. It's not their fault their stupid. It's not worth worrying over, those kids they will get their ass handed to them when they get addicted to their medication for thier so called mental disorders. And FUCK Nicky Manaj for trying to act like she has three personalities... These fucking celebrities need to get off the kids with their stupid baby games.

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ShadowNightz
The Gargoyle Car
July 03, 2014, 07:41:pm
How about the creative mind behind this gargoyle evil car?
Make/Model: Volkswagen, made to look like a Bugatti Atlantic
Modification: Steel plating featuring gargoyle heads with glowing eyes.
Creator W.T. Burge calls it Phantoms.
Primary Drawback: Satan might want his car!

Can you dig it?



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Glycerinegrl88

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The Gargoyle Car
July 09, 2014, 04:43:pm
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ugly but unique

Gothy

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The Gargoyle Car
July 10, 2014, 03:26:pm
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i can see going places with this idea

Oddeye

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The Gargoyle Car
July 10, 2014, 06:59:pm
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Looks hella stupid and why does it have a hole in the roof? So ppl can see the goon inside?

dark_accuracy

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The Gargoyle Car
July 11, 2014, 02:19:am
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its brutal, but how much does it weigh? lol

ShadowNightz

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The Gargoyle Car
July 11, 2014, 02:46:am
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Not sure lol, looks badass though.

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ShadowNightz
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July 03, 2014, 01:36:pm
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Anabela_Dawn_Riddler

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VF Store Sale!
July 03, 2014, 05:06:pm
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nah :-D

Magnus_Wolfbane

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July 03, 2014, 09:16:pm
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It's a cute top!

No

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July 05, 2014, 12:34:am
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thats so expensive. |:

No

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July 05, 2014, 01:42:am
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It's on "sale" too.I would totally wear something like this...If it wasn't so expensive. D;But I'm not sure I could pull something like this off anyways. rofl

No

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July 05, 2014, 03:20:am
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lol it's still cute though. I know a few of my friends who could pull this off. (:

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