On facebook I recently saw a thread where some of my friends were talking about the nudity issue regarding the Pride parade. For those of you who don't know, every year Toronto has a huge LGBT pride parade, and every year part of that means people walking around in public sometimes partially nude or completely nude. And with recent changes to our government, people believe that this year there will be less tolerance from law enforcement and perhaps legal action taken against the people that choose to be nude. Some people believe this is a good thing, and others think this is a bad thing. Here are my thoughts:
In general, I believe in equality for all, no matter what your sexuality is. People should be free to be who they are, but there are reasonable limits. I see no good reason why people should be allowed to be nude in public places where it is generally not allowed. Yes, we are all born nude, but people who wish to be nude some of the time, or all the time, is a choice. I don't think being a nudist is the same as having a sexual identity. I think public displays of affection between non heterosexual people should absolutely be allowed in public just as it's fine for straight people. And I think breast feeding in public is also fine if women are being somewhat modest about it and not letting their breasts completely hang out. Yeah, those things will make some people uncomfortable, but I feel like everyone needs to at least be tolerant of those behaviours, and they should talk to their children about it if seeing that becomes an issue. However, nudity seems like something that is completely optional. If people want to be nudists, they can do it in the privacy of their own homes, or in nudist colonies, or on nude beaches. I don't think it's fair that families with children just going about their routines in public should be put in a situation where they might see naked adults on the street. There isn't anything inherently bad about nudity, but I think it's reasonable that people should have a choice to not expose their children to that if they don't think it's appropriate. I know if I had kids, I would prefer that they not have to see naked adults walking around in public. I'm sure there are some that say, if you don't want to see naked people then don't take your kids outside that day or don't live in a city that hosts pride parades, but that does not seem reasonable to me at all. It seems much more reasonable for the people who want to be nude to do it in places where it is welcomed by everyone there and not offensive to anyone. I would think that for most nudists, being nude is about comfort or spirituality and is not sexual at all, however, it is also natural for the human body to become aroused at times, sometimes unexpectedly, and if you're nude you have no way of concealing that, especially if you're a man. And I would think that could lead to a lot of trouble in public, so I'm not sure why people insist on doing it. So in that sense, I do hope that the law against public nudity is enforced more, as it really is not something that MUST happen in public, and it doesn't happen in public without consequences the rest of the year. Any other day of the year, I would think they could be arrested if they did not cover up right away.
Aside from being offensive to some, it could also be very distracting in a potentially harmful way... I can totally picture someone driving their car and getting into an accident, maybe even a deadly one because they stared a bit too long at a naked person or small group of them walking around when everyone else is dressed. I think there was an instance of this happening in New York a few years ago... I think someone had been looking at a topless woman and got into an accident because let's face it, nudity in public would be very distracting to most people.
Thoughts about the nudity at Toronto Pride
March 06, 2014, 07:08:pm
I agree with you to an extent. Being nude doesn't truly enrich Pride, if anything it gives the homo-haters something to use against allowing the event. But, I think personally partial nudity (i.e. sexual body part covered, but allowing bare-chest regardless of gender) should not get people's jimmies rushed. A topless female tends to, but it's actually not against the law in many States/counties, and we need to stop sexually fetishizing mammary glands. And they get people excited because they are so covered. Though I think now I'm going on a completely different tangent here... But point in short, most nude Pride goers are doing it to be shocking, and make a statement about how "out and proud they are, deal with it! ^_^" But it's really not necessary, and I think can be more hurtful as so many people view nudity as a mostly unwholesome thing, especially if uninvited. So until things change, a banana hammock and some pasties can do wonders *edit because I didn't proof read*
Thoughts about the nudity at Toronto Pride
March 06, 2014, 07:36:pm
Yeah, I'm more concerned with people being bottomless, and your right, as long as female breasts are sexualized as they are, better to at least cover the nipples in public. I hope breasts become less sexualized over time, but I can't see that happening any time soon. I would say things are becoming more sexual rather than less sexual if that makes any sense, and by that I mean people are dressing more provocatively on purpose, and starting to become sexual at younger and younger ages which disturbs me a lot. Will there be a time when ladies can be topless and its no big deal to anyone? Hmm... I don't think in our lifetime but perhaps for the next generation. Personal preference is fine and all, but at this point in time, nudity makes a lot of parents feel uncomfortable if their kids are around, and I feel like that should be respected because the public is shared space and everyone should feel comfortable in public. A lot of schools are public places, but I doubt most people would approve of naked people walking around schools. Well, outside on the street is public too, and kids are there too, so I don't think it really matters where they might see it... they shouldn't have to see it at all if the parents don't want that. Heck, I've heard of some families where the parents are nude most of the time even in front of their kids when they are home, but they don't approve of strangers being nude around their kids.
Thoughts about the nudity at Toronto Pride
March 06, 2014, 08:09:pm
Yeah, stranger nudity is different than familial nudity, because it honestly usually hold an element of danger. A person of sound mind doesn't normally walk around naked in public because A) it's illegal B) it's just not something most persons are comfortable doing. So I agree.
There's a right way to speak to a lady you don't know, and a wrong way. I am getting awfully tired with the wrong way, I fear my blocked user list will be growing a lot as I am becoming less and less tolerant of the disrespectful or just creepy crap.
In general, ladies will approve of the following words or their synonyms:
beautiful, gorgeous, pretty, cute, etc. Not every lady will want to hear these things, but most will be fine with such terms. I certainly would not block someone if they spoke to me using these words.
However... when you don't know somebody, these are the kinds of things we don't want to hear, especially if we are in some sort of monogamous relationship with a boyfriend or fiance or husband: "I want to f*ck you", "Let's bang", use of any of the sexual position emotes, any references to sexual arousal or masturbating while looking at your photos, these are all UNWANTED!!!
Even if a woman is single and looking, most will appreciate being called beautiful FAR MORE than being told you want to do naughty things to them. If you want to make a good impression, have some class for goodness sake! Being attracted to someone is not a crime, but blurting whatever out with no filter at all is a huge turn off for a lot of women. I think even the freakier women would appreciate someone acting like a gentlemen at first, and if things go in a different direction later because that's what she wants, then good for you. But when in doubt, be classy.
In short, people who lack class are going to be getting the boot from now on. Speak to me nicely or don't speak to me at all. Make a bad first impression with me and you do not get a second chance.
Human beings are indeed animals, but that does not mean we must act like animals when interacting with one another.
word!! best thing ever is, that some guys tell you that they masturbate to some of ypour pictures - but they aren't slutty at all the internet is big and there's so much pornography (or slutty girls on vf when they prefer vf) that i always think 'why me? '
Perhaps this is in bad form to make this a journal entry, but I'm selling knives and blades, hand forged. If anyone might find themselves interested in helping out a young blacksmith and also in want of a good handcrafted knife, consider sending me a message
So excited! Yesterday I did a preview of my Lord of the Rings outfit, but I have two other outfits for the con. They aren't quite finished yet because the lady who made my costume still has stuff for both costumes, but I am hoping on Friday to do my Star Trek outfit, and Sunday will be an improved version of Selene with more accessories and a wig. For my Star Trek look, I want something with a retro feel for the hair and makeup since it was filmed in the 60s, and I was doing photos and thought this one had a nice retro feel to it... I'll try and do something similar on Friday.
You guys, I am so excited. Less than a week from now, I get to wear this outfit and do a photo with Sean Astin (Samwise) and Billy Boyd (Pippin). I wanted to practice the hair with the crown, but then I figured I could do the whole outfit, so this is it, although I will probably do leggings under the dress because it's going to be cold this weekend and I'll need to be outside for awhile.
What makes me extra, extra excited is the fact that I rewatched all the LOTR extended editions of the movies with cast commentary, and every time they showed the maps in the movie, Sean Astin would get excited about the maps and talk about how awesome they were!! And I'm wearing one of those maps! I think he will like that, haha. That is a mass produced dress by Black Milk, but I think it has only existed for a year or two, so it could totally be the first time either of them has seen that dress, hehe.
Lately I've seen people discussing copyright law, especially when it comes to models and photographers, and it seems to me that a lot of people don't actually know what the laws say about who really owns the rights photos, or characters if you're talking about costumes or cosplay.
In general, photographers own any photo they take. They take it, they own the image. It doesn't matter what the subject is, if it's a landscape or of a person or group of people, they own the image and can do what they want with the image. However, there are a few exceptions people should know about. If models want rights, they should sign a release form or contract when doing photo shoots. Both the model and photographer would need to sign such a document, to legally give the model any ownership of the photos. The only other exception would be if the photographer is using images of a model for a commercial purpose, or in other words, to make money, they need permission from the model, and the model can take legal action if the photograph is selling prints or t-shirts with the picture on it, or whatever, if they do it without permission. The best thing to do if you want to make money, is to do a contract where model and photographer agree to share any money made by using the images for a commercial purpose... or one can agree to pay the other, if only one person wants to make money selling stuff.. for example the photographer might pay the model a lump sum of $500 and then they can sell as many prints or t-shirts as they want with the model's photo... IF they have the contract saying that is the agreement.
What about TF shoots?
Basically, if there is no contract, the model has no rights. You need to either really trust the photographers you work with, OR get a contract if you want rights to the photos.
What if someone takes my photo in public?
Again, no contract, no rights. And actually, if you are in public, then that photographer can do whatever they want with those photos, they can even make money off of them and they do not need to tell you or share the money. When paparazzi take photos of celebrities and sell them, it's legal if the celebrities are in public, but it's the same for models or normal people as well, if you are in public, you have zero control about where those photos end up, and you are entitled to no money either. If you don't like it, don't go in public places where people might photograph you. Obviously if someone is stalking you, or being a pervert, you can take legal action against that, but if you go to an anime convention and some random guy takes your photo and puts it on his facebook page, he owns the photo, weather you posed for it or not. Obviously, the most courteous thing for people to do is to ask before taking your photo at a con or other public place, but legally they don't have to ask.
What about the actual characters people cosplay? Does someone own the rights to the character?
Usually yes. It's almost never enforced, but technically, when you dress up as a specific character, there is a good chance you are violating a copyright law because someone, or a corporation, owns that character. Disney has been known to go after people for dressing up as there characters without permission, especially if those people are making money off of the character in someway. People that make costumes or replica props need to be very careful, because somewhere out there, a designer or artist or corporation created or owns those props and characters, and they might want a share of the profits if people are taking what they created and using it for profit. It does not matter legally that by dressing up as a character, you are promoting the movies or tv shows, which is arguably helping the owner of the copyright to make money anyways. A lot of artists, designers, and tv/movie people see it as a compliment if people want to dress up as their characters, but not all of them see it that way. To some people, if they made it, then they own, and therefore they are entitled to money if people copy it. Just something to think about... a day may come when people are more aggressively pursued for making money from chacaters/cosplay... like I said, beware of Disney, they are the most likely to file lawsuits against people if the catch it happening.
It's 7am and I never went to bed. Screw it, I'm staying up lol.
So um... at around 5:30am I randomly decided to purchase a Galadriel crown online. Who ever does that at 5:30am after not sleeping at all? lol. Fingers crossed it will arrive within 2 weeks in time for the Comic Con... it's shipping from the US so getting to Canada usually does not take long at all... maybe a week if all goes well.
I have been moody as hell lately... I felt absolutely horrible a few hours ago because I was remembering some bad stuff, and now I am extremely happy, although also insanely tired but not the right kind of tired for sleep if that makes sense. My emotions do not usually go so up and down like this, it's odd. Maybe I do things to force myself to be happy as a coping mechanism? I have no idea... but the fact is, the recent death in the family has hit me and my boyfriend very hard, and I have not had a real job in quite awhile and that is very frustrating because I feel stuck most of the time. I want to work and start earning money again, I just want to not absolutely hate what I do. Arg. Lack of sleep makes me loopy, and I have not slept right for days. Maybe I will try to at least nap a bit? Hmmm... perhaps.
This week I did something that some people might find a little crazy. While I was doing chores, I decided to watch the Lord of the Rings movies. In 3 days, I watched all three of them... and not the regular versions, I watched the extended editions, so those are around 4 hours long each, lol. Anyways, I posted on my facebook about how all 3 of those movies are probably in my top 10 movies of all time list, and that got me thinking, what really are my favourite 10 movies? It's a harder question then you think, if you love a lot of movies like I do. When trying to decide, it's also hard dealing with movies you may have really loved at some point but haven't seen for years, or if you've seen a new movie and loved it, it can be hard to tell if that will stand the test of time. Anyways, here are some of my thoughts.
When it comes to movies that were my favourites during childhood, definitely these:
- The Lion King
- Homeward Bound (1993 edition)
- The Little Mermaid
- Black Beauty (1994 edition)
Of these five, as a kid I think Lion King was probably my most loved at the time, but now as an adult, I gravitate more towards The Little Mermaid. I would probably also put Black Beauty in my top 10 of all time list, I love horses and the story here is sad but beautiful. Honourable mentions should go to Toy Story and Pochahontas, loved those too as a kid. And as a slightly older kid, loved The Secret Garden (Maggie Smith was in this long before she was Professor Mcgonagall in HP lol).
As a teenager, the most important movies for me were definitely:
- All 3 Lord of the Rings movies
- The Craft
- The Harry Potter movies
I was completely obsessed with LOTR at this time, but for me, The Craft was also a huge influence. The Craft had already been out for a few years when I saw it, but when I did see it, I was just so... drawn to it in a big way. And of course, Harry Potter was excellent as well. So I've got to put the 3 LOTR's in my top ten, and I think The Craft still deserves a spot in the top ten as well. As for HP, since there are so many HP movies, I can't choose them all for top 10, but I think at least the first one deserves it, although I have no idea if it's really "the best" of all the movies. As for the books, I decided years ago that Order of the Phoenix was my fav, loved all the stuff with the department of mysteries lol. But anyways, back to movies! The first Matrix movie definitely gets an honourable mention... and honestly I can't remember what age I was the first time I saw Underworld, but I think I was a teen, and that is for sure top 10 material, Selene is my favourite character of all time, hence why I am doing her costume
Movies I love as an adult, I will talk about in different categories.
The "not happy" movies, or "depressing" to some people movies:
- The Hours
- Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood
- Where the Heart Is
Now I'm not sure if any of these are top 10 for me. It's hard to know what to do with these emotional movies, because you don't really feel "good" watching parts of these movies, but for me anyways, they make me feel and think deeply about things, and so I enjoy them a lot, even though they are not really happy or fast paced exciting movies.
The kind of similar in style, quirky comedies
-Scott Pilgrim Vs. The World
-Nick and Nora's Infinante Playlist
These movies are targeted at people younger than myself, but for some reason they are the sort of movie I love watching with my boyfriend. Probably not top 10 material but some would be top 20.
The fairly recent but excellent
-Star Trek 2009
Don't get me wrong, there have been a lot of excellent movies over the last five years, but I LOVE Star Trek 2009, top 10 for sure. Only a few months ago, I watched Despicable Me for the first time, loved it! And I also enjoyed the 2nd one very much as well. Honourable mentions to the two Hobbit movies so far, and also to Frozen, only saw that a few weeks ago, but I totally get why so many people love it, amazing for modern Disney.
Other random honourable mentions:
-The Shawshank Redemption (very high quality movie, but this list is about favourites, not best. If I was doing a best list, it would be top 10, but for favourites probably top 20).
-Run Lola Run (weird in the best way possible)
-Clueless (oh the 90s lol)
-obviously the rest of the HP movies rank pretty high
-Ginger Snaps 1 and 2
- The Avengers
- X Men and X2 (almost forgot about them, eeep! SO good! Possibly top 10 or 20)
-Little Miss Sunshine
-Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 1 and 2
-The other Underworld movies... the prequel with Sonja, not so much.
I love too many movies. This could easily turn into a top 100 list lol.
Okay, I shall stop. I'm probably forgetting some really good ones, but this will do for now.