...but only if you're a solid 8-10, even though I'm barely a 3."
This is the basic gist of every skeevy dude/chick I've ever met. Seriously.
I went into a chat room a while ago here on VF, and I was a little drunk. I was talking to some friends, when this guy starts creeping my cam. Then, he's like, "Stand up and turn around." Of course, I asked why he wanted me to, even though I knew he just wanted to body check me because, well, my boobs are kind of big, and he probably wanted to get a better look.
His "reason" was, "I want to see your legs." Riiiiiiight.
This dude had no alibi whatsoever. U-g-l-fucking-y, but he wanted to check me out to see what I look like. As if it were somehow my duty to show him whether or not my legs are as bodacious as my tits. As if I owed him the right to judge me. Fucking no. I've stood up on cam plenty of times for stupid shit, but I'm not going to stand at attention for some perverted fuck. I'm not going to let someone size me up like a fucking steak, whether it's a guy, girl, whatever.
I'm not saying that I'm an 8-10 by a long shot, but still, this motherfucker wanted to make sure my body is banging before he continued a conversation with me. Hell the fuck no.
I see it all the time. Dudes talk to big girls and girls that aren't model-pretty like they're undeserving of their attention, even though they're pockmarked, scrawny little shitbags. Yeah, because you can really afford to be choosy anywhere besides the Internet. That's right, you can only talk to hot chicks, because it would be totally downgrading if you were to be a decent human being to someone, regardless of their appearance.
I don't give a fuck what people look like, and I wouldn't call someone out for the way they look unless they basically did the same thing to me. I wouldn't treat someone like shit when they didn't deserve it, but I guess that's how someone acts when they actually had parents that loved them.
I've seen girls do it too, so don't think I'm hating on dudes. I've seen girls that make fun of the way guys look, even though they're in the same category looks-wise, and then they only make friends with hot guys, as if they're in some way deserving of only the best. Uh, no you don't, because you're a shitty fucking person and you're going to die alone and your cats will eat you before anyone notices.
Self-improvement pays off. Work harder and smarter.
September 01, 2014, 08:40:am
-Assess your value more objectively and in accurate context.
Work to improve it if necessary.
-Demand more of yourself and expect more in return.
If you don't get enough for what you give, find a way to get more. This does not only apply to money, but also respect, love, and life quality.
-Read more. It's good exercise.
-Study things that interest you in your "bored" time.
Not only will you expand your own knowledge, but you'll actually have things to talk about and you'll become more socially dynamic.
You have access to the world's knowledge at your fingertips. There are free online courses and seminars available in virtually any subject, and free videos of lectures from top colleges at your disposal.
-Treat others with respect. You get it back from them most of the time.
You always get it back from yourself.
-Be humble. Nobody likes a braggart. Not even the braggart. The propaganda is aimed inward as much as outward.
Validate yourself on your own time.
Those who will appreciate what you do most are the ones that will recognize it. They will do the speaking for you.
-Avoid high-dose consumer culture. Limit television viewing and radio listening. Identify and reject biased news. These things exist because they work, and they are designed to distract you from your own goals and to persuade you to fuel those of others who will not help you.
-Don't waste time and resources.
They are just like money, except they have real, tangible value.
-Don't "Go with the flow.".
Things tend to flow downhill.
-Simplify and streamline
Get rid of things you don't need or use very often.
Plan ahead to get the most done with the least resources in the shortest time possible.
Some things can't be rushed. Allow yourself time for creative processes and tedious work. You sometimes have to create that too, so streamline what you can.
Your ideas probably only suck because they haven't been hashed out and put into motion yet. If they still suck after that, well... At least you tried.
Have some more self-respect.
Mood: Posi as fuck. Music: Hot Water Music - Mainline
Self-improvement pays off. Work harder and smarter.
September 01, 2014, 04:59:pm
Glad you guys like this! I've been pretty unhappy with a lot of things in my life for a long time and I made a list of ways to improve myself then decided to add a few things and share it. ymlie, if you want to share this, go ahead.
There is this gorgeous online store called Delilah Dust...
...And they are offering a special discount of 50% off!
((Use the code 'clearance' if anybody actually buys anything))
I managed to get five gorgeous necklaces for £30.
I am so happy as I've wanted some of these for a long time.
Just sold my camera so used some of that money.
Going to hopefully bless these (well four of them) when I next go to Glastonbury.
Should be doing a run there around November.
ie. When me and Torie run out of candles!
Strong stone you see all the time in paganism. It's for protection and healing, which links closely in to my personal health problems but also within my divination. It traditionally has ties to protection from drunkenness as well, and is meant to help one stay sober. Although I don't drink I'm glad I'll have something there because of the pain killer addiction. Just that extra bit of strength! This is also for the element air. Although I am a fire element air is who I aspire to be, and I see myself as a cross between the two. Both are represented on my alter so couldn't be more pleased to have the necklace as well!
Geode Slice Necklace With Citrine Point
For warmth, kindness, positive energy, and also with links to luck and personal power. Citrine is a powerful stone and love the way they've displayed it here, I had to Another air element stone as well (:
No meaning or reason behind this one, it is just bloody gorgeous!!!
Crystal Quartz Point
Clear Quartz is a master healer crystal, and may be used for any condition - HELLO FIBRO AND CFS! It also has ties to emotional healing, as a deep soul cleanser. I personal already have a cluster I keep atop my oracle cards to keep them pure and protected, filled with positive energy, but wanted one i can carry with me too. Linked to all elements, so a really good all round stone!
"Stone of Complete Composure & Balance" - Ward off negative energies, very much a purifying stone. Grounding stone, good for divination as well as ritual work. It should also help with my lovely panic attacks that seem to be happening more and more. Relating to health it is linked to physicality and musculature (yey!). It is also black, so you know - utterly gorgeous!!
That's really sweet of her. When I was younger (10-12) I had some friends who were into crystals, so a learned a little then about how each one is supposed to help with certain things. When they dug up the old courtyard's tarmac, there was quartz everywhere. I remember us going around for days finding good pieces. One of those boys absolutely loved gold tiger eye.
You see one of the interesting things with this website is that it is heavily based on your looks. Which I find rather amusing, because I thought to be different is more personality than superficaulity, sadly alot of people won't reply or don't purely by judging your profile and photos alone. Most of the time you'll find they only talk to those they feel are attractive and/or are envious of their looks.
It sadens me to know that this website is based off of looks and superficual matters.
But I just thought I'd let you know that if you feel sad or angry that I do not reply or anything, it is because I am busy so I have to choose the people I talk to, and I also am not friends with everyone.
I am also sick of having the same messages with different usernames "Hey" "How are you?" "Hey cutie"
Those are only a few examples, and when I reply if I do, they just reply with something so dull there is no point in replying.
You get what you give people.
If you even do read my journal thank you.
Most people on here are to self absorbed to read it.
The lack of good people on this website is sad a few years ago this site was amazing... Now it is super dull and depressing.
I agree that we tend to size people up on first sight, at least to an extent, and I also believe that our first impressions shouldn't be our only impressions. Someone might be cute, but they can also be a total asshole, or even a really good person. Same goes for people that aren't so cute. I think it's worth taking a little time to figure out who they are instead of going off looks alone, at least if you only intend to talk/be friends. When it comes to relationships, though, or looking to get involved with someone, that's different. You're not an asshole if you just aren't attracted to someone.
I think some people mistake this site for a hook up/dating/fetish site lolSo in that context looks do matter But if it was a hook up/dating/fetish site even the ugliest of girls would be having a good time.
Not that I'm complaining about the site but...
August 31, 2014, 10:15:am
I've been here since 2004 and people have literally been whining about the exact thing that entire time.Cybers ruined it, metalheads ruined it, posers ruined it, juggafucks ruined it, emos ruined it, yadda yadda yadda.
Don’t be afraid to hurt her.
She knows you worry. You shouldn't. She's not as fragile as you think.
Don’t tug her hair. Grab it. Force her to her knees with your hands in her hair wrapped in a fist. Pull hard. Make her eyes water.
Don’t graze your teeth along her skin. Devour her. Bite down until she cries out. Then do it again.
Don’t caress her throat. She wants to feel your fingers wrap tightly around it. Feel her pulse hammer into your palm. Feel the breath short in her chest as that little bit of panic sets in.
Lock the collar around her neck. She wants it, to feel owned. To be controlled.
Tell her what she is. Make her feel dirty and sexy and beautiful.
Don’t nudge her knees apart. Move them like they’re yours to spread. With intention. With possession.
Don’t hold her hands. She wants to feel your strong grip around her wrists. Use all your weight. Make her lie still.
She wants it to still hurt tomorrow.
She wants to see the bruises. The welts. The handprints.
Don’t ask her if she's okay. Make her take it.
She needs to let go and not think.
She needs you to make her yours.
She needs you to take her and use her to your will. Her mouth is yours, her ass is yours, her pussy is yours to do with as you please.
Let her body answer for her with each shudder and moan. With the pool of wetness between her thighs.
These are the things she can’t control. She doesn't want to control. That’s the point. You'll leave her shaking.
Just fuck her.