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devilmunchkin's Journal
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Jasper
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November 20, 2008, 03:36:pm
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1997-2008. He was 11 and a half years old. good rabbit.
He went this morning from a massive stroke. He's been having them for the past month. This last week his legs gave out.
He was spunky til the end.
Mood: a weepy mess
Music: silence
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Regressing
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November 19, 2008, 06:01:pm
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I've not had a good go of things in quite awhile.
So when I say I feel like I've emotionally regressed, quite a few of you will understand what this entails. I feel like I've almost slid back to my starting point.
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Sleepless in Seattle
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November 11, 2008, 11:57:pm
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Sleepless in Seattle
Please watch this if you haven't seen it. If you have seen it, give it a brief refresh so you'll understand where I'm coming from.
This movie is good. It's funny, it's romantic in a not-sugary sort of way. It gives you the warn fuzzies.
I realize that some romance flicks are so sappy they're only good for women. I think some guys may enjoy this if they can put stereotypes aside for 1 hr and 45 minutes.
I mean, it's got Tom Hanks - it can't be that syrupy right?
This movie has some good things to say. This movie also has some misleading things to say. This movie can also be taken out of context and can be help up as part of what is wrong with the American psyche.
Good things to say: 1) When dating, you get to know someone. Doesn't mean you're getting married. It's kind of like a trial run without the stress (or supposed to be without the stress. I personally think that if there is undue amounts of stress before you even sign the paper, you shouldn't bother because it will be 10 times worse 5+ years from now and then you've wasted people's money and time on a wedding).
2) Don't live in a movie.
3) Don't settle.
Things that are misleading..
1) Stalking is ok as long as it is set to upbeat happy or romantic music.
2) Don't live in a movie. But then the main characters do it. In the early nineties we didn't have the internet, so long distances relationships were more taboo than now. There no reason why they can't work. But to hear a person's voice once and think "That's the one" is unreasonable. Experiencing magic the first time you touch or see them and think "this is forever" is unreasonable. The movie spends time saying all of these things and then turns it's back on every single one of them. These characters end up with a "happy ever after."
I say with 100% confidence that if any real person tried this, it would end up in heartache somewhere down the line.
What is heartening about this movie is that no one gets married at the end. That is a good thing. They leave it with Sam and Annie gazing at each other and preparing to launch into the world of dating.
But I bet the human mind misses the "it's just the beginning part." The reason I say this is that half of all marriages end in divorce. This bugs me. This bugs me a lot. The only bright side I see to this is the revenue the government gets when people file their licences. I see people enter into unions and arn't prepared to deal with the hardships that go along with it.
They forget that it's work I suppose. Or the "magic" dies and therefore, it's just time to end it.
Or is the societal expectation that we find one person something that goes counterintuitive to our biological programming. We as part of the animal kingdom arn't meant to stay with one person?
If the latter is the case, then marriages are a farce. Ok, I already think they are a farce since 50% of people fail at this undertaking. I think we should work to lower this number a bit.
We're brought up to believe there is some sort of sanctity in marriage but statistics and personal experiences prove that there isn't. (I could start on a Prop 8 soapbox here but I won't. My feelings about this are well known). When we go through 3+ spouses in our lifetimes.. how can anyone take that seriously?
I think the problem is that we like to live in movies. Movies are a type of escapism. It's a safe bet that we like to escape from the real world. For many of us, it kind of sucks. We looks to movies or video games and look at the happy endings we want (at least with American cinema). Cinema, however, doesn't show up the whole picture. We get a skeleton view of something that has a whole, invisible body around it.
I'm not opposed to marriage. In fact, anyone who knows me knows I've always wanted to be loved that way. Most single women wonder what it would be like. I think we all want the dress to some degree. But these are just wonderful daydreams. When I sit down and think about the true reality of things - it's scary. It's not enough to "find that someone." After you find them, you have to go through so much and constantly work to stay together. The finish line isn't the wedding.
I've been thinking about this a lot. It's something I'd want but would never, ever want to go into without weighing the full implications. I don't, and never have, wanted to be one of those failed 50%.
Mood: jaded
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insert whine about men
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November 02, 2008, 05:16:am
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*insert here*
no point in typing it all out. people whine about people all of the time. it boils down to the ones you like never like you back.
i think i forgot to take my medication last night because i'm so so dizzy right now. i've been forgetting lately.
i got a new workout video i want to try. the Dancing with the Stars one.
Jiffy Lube Guy sucks my ass.
Mood: man hater
Music: wednesday 13
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