I'm tracking Santa via NORAD: http://www.noradsanta.org Is the missile defence system online? RED SLEIGH DOWN! I REPEAT, RED SLEIGH DOWN! Mood: Festive Music: The Most Offensive Song Ever - Kenny McCormick and Mr. Hanky
This is just a friendly note to anyone wishing to message me for the first time, or who might want to in the future. Based on my experiences so far here, it is very awkward for me if someone new sends me a message saying only "Hi" or "Hey" or "What's up?" or any other variation of simple message like that. I really don't know what to say to that, and I've tried many things. "Hi" back usually gets no response. "How are you?" seems weird since I don't even know you. I've even tried as politely as I can to ask "Why did you message me?" and I often get responses like "I like you avatar". Ok then, thanks. What I really want to ask is "What do you want?" or "What did you expect/hope would happen when you sent that message?" but those sound suspicious and possibly rude, which is not my intent. You must have had some reason for wanting to message me, so what was it? I need to know where to begin!
Does this work with other people on VF and for some reason I'm just not getting it? Can you just Hi to most people and they instantly strike up an interesting conversation with you? I don't know because I never see these conversations so feel free to educate me if this is the case. Maybe it's a case of beta-beta behaviour (see this article to see what I am talking about here), and you're just too shy to say more, and want me to take over or lead the conversation (is that what most people or guys do?). If that's the case then I'm not sure what the answer is, one of us has got to get us over the awkward hump, so give it a try.
Maybe it helps if you know what I expect or like when meeting new people? When I message someone, I tell them what about their profile I like, usually some common interest(s) we have, hoping to strike up a conversation about that (or those). If it's a picture that drew me in, then a compliment is usually in order (although I don't do that very often for reasons explained earlier). Questions are good too, like "What kind of (__) do you like?" or "What do you think about (__)?" or "Ever hear of (__)?" Or maybe it was a conversation in one of the forums or cults, so why not talk about that, or at least mention it?
So I don't know. Maybe this is enough, maybe it's just the first step in helping myself and/or others to communicate. I do like meeting new people, but for some reason it seems so awkward with many of them. Maybe it's just a difference in communication styles, who knows? Feel free to talk to me about this, if you think I'm right, or wrong, or share your own opinions or experiences, whatever. I like a good discussion and this one's good too. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Yesterday I woke up to find a message to me that one of my friends here on VF has died. We weren't super-close or anything, but it's still hit me hard. She was really nice, and was so undeserving of something like this. An auto accident that no one saw. She was only 21, and had a daughter. She was starting to make it in her modelling career. It even happened two days after her birthday. I wouldn't even have known if it were not for one of her other friends on here taking it upon himself to tell all of her friends, for which I'm grateful for. I don't know if I'd have done the same. I don't actually have much experience with death you see, so this one is kind of new to me, so I suppose in a way it's kind of good that we weren't closer... is that an awful thing to say? I don't know. I'm just trying to figure it all out. Five stages and all that. I still don't even want to believe it. Because if I do my sense of justice threatens to enrage me, but what good will that do? I even find it kind of ironic that we were both on this website where most of us like to talk about death and stuff, practically as entertainment, but losing someone isn't entertaining. Not that I think we should stop either... I just don't know what to think of it now. And of course I'm the kind of person who over-thinks everything. Many times it's a benefit, other times it's not. Now it's just kind of like a self-torture that promises no clear answers. Part of me wants to lie in bed and mope and cry, just dwell on all the dark thoughts and pain. Is that part of grieving? Another part of me wants to just avoid it altogether, distract myself with games and movies and food and shopping. I've also taken to drinking a lot heavier than usual. Don't worry, it's just Pepsi. So of course I'm constantly thinking "What do I do now?" You just have to go through it I guess, however confusing and maddening and horrible. Time wounds all heels or something like that.
Huh. When I started this I had no idea what to say beyond the first sentence. Guess there was more going on in me than I realized. Typical.
