Mar 07, 2018, 08:18pm
Low self esteem advice
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Ive met someone, well ive known him for years and we liked each other for that whole time but nothing ever came of it because of distance, I met him in person once last year and we havent stopped talking since. Lately ive been having these awful thoughts of being not good enough for him even though he tries to make me feel good, hes ten million times the person ill ever be, his body is perfect and mine is not toned at all, hes in control of his mental state and mine is fucked, hes absolutely gorgeous and I need lots of make up to look kinda decent, im needy and he doesnt like that much attention at all and lastly he has chronic pain and never speaks about it and im always moaning about the pain im in. I just feel like hes a way better person and soon he.ll realise it and leave. Ive been trying to be better for him and some days its harder than others. I understand that worrying constantly that he.ll leave might causr him to leave! Any advice? :-( cry
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Creepy Old Fucker
Mar 07, 2018, 10:58pm

Remember the old saying....opposites attract. Maybe not all the time but I'm sure it happens occasionally. You both enjoy the quirky things about eachother that make you different. Relish in that. Unless things begin to separate in a big way and you can't agree on anything and see eachother as complete strangers then you don't have to worry about turning this person off. He probably loves you just the way you are. You would have found out if he didn't a lot sooner.
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Mar 08, 2018, 05:58pm

What he said. Unfortunately for some of us our minds are not always our allies, be cognicent of your own mind when those feelings come in, is it really you or the devil on your shoulder? You wouldn't insult yourself, don't let your words in your head do it to you.
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Mar 09, 2018, 01:51pm

If you had a friend who you liked and cared for, what would you tell her if she came to you with these questions?
We often treat our friends and family better than we would treat ourselves. Try to treat yourself as well as you would treat a friend.
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Pisswhiskers
Mar 09, 2018, 04:53pm

Step 1: Stop comparing yourself to another person. Right now. It is a standard operating practice to see people we are attracted to as being "perfect" and I tell you right now, the guy has flaws you're not willing to see right now. We're all human, we're all a combination of awesome and shitstorm.

Step 2: Stop looking at your negative aspects and focus on your positive side. Everyone has them, and if you dare say you don't I'm going to digitally slap you in the pancreas. It's not easy to do, but if you really really try hard you will manage it.
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Mar 12, 2018, 07:47pm

Hey guys, ive talked to him this morning about how im feelings and taken all your advice on board really helped. He reassured me of all my worries and we will be fine. Im returning to therepy next week too so that will help. Its draining for people when at times I need so much reassurance but hes been great heart
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Mar 13, 2018, 02:12am

Learn to say this, 'I simply am', and screw the rest of the world.
When you figure out what this 'I simply am' @ large means, write to me.
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Mar 13, 2018, 09:45am

"Step 1: Stop comparing yourself to another person. Right now. It is a standard operating practice to see people we are attracted to as being "perfect" and I tell you right now, the guy has flaws you're not willing to see right now. We're all human, we're all a combination of awesome and shitstorm. "
I would suggest in addition to that, compare yourself to you. Who you are now, compared to who you used to be. And if you work on being better in some way that matters to you, you will have your own good reasons for having self esteem.
The fact that it matters to you already suggests you are a better than a lot of people.
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Mar 13, 2018, 09:16pm

Correction, all in all are perfect in the natural mechanics of time, or else asshole games are on, in other words, time contradiction is being played as an apparent right but wrongly...

According to the ideal status quo nothing is ever perfect, all are approximations to what is perfect identification.
No one gets away with equalizing another being anywhere due to the mechanics of actuality of time and place but approximations can be adored!
The statement 'I simply am' is only a self test of the Third Person part of oneself connection, not the real third Person. This nature holds more power than imaginable by humans.
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Mar 14, 2018, 04:20pm

pointup did you get really stoned because I understoof none of your comment and dont think it was relevant at all? You didnt make yourself sound intelligent headshake
Edited by EmilyEnthusiasticxo on Mar 14, 2018, 04:21pm
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Pisswhiskers
Mar 14, 2018, 04:23pm

Welcome to the world of Binaco... Just tune it out and eventually it goes away
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Mar 15, 2018, 12:20am

There is the science that is revealed under the Academic world and much is all corrupt and much stocked in a closed due to political red tape never known publicly.
I know that science knows about what is referred to as the Third Person, to a reasonable degree, this is a bridge to more power beyond and within the human biochemistry than imagined - I know this very well.

Self-esteem is really a superficial complex not reality due to how the individual low self esteem bearer ID's.
There is only one angle to ID low self esteem otherwise, it's from on who bears in his or her own soul and really discovers that society and peers pose a problem in relating to the low self esteem one.

When the low self esteem one finds the true nature of the Third Person, or from the old perspective non-person, within, I'd say screw the world and keep to oneself but become more private. You need to see the value of what is discovered within from a more private way, and why!
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Mar 18, 2018, 01:50am

Sorry but no one gets away by contradicting what I right except for adding some more from where I stood.
Science today is absolutely contrary to the old world, I mean about 50 years and back. Check it you'll see!
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Mar 19, 2018, 02:04pm

You are actually insane and make no relevance to my post
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Mar 20, 2018, 06:34am

My dear beautiful young girl, please never compare yourself nor your worth to someone else. You are YOU. If you dislike something, simply change it. I understand not feeling beautiful, or worthy! It's really not worth the time spent dwelling on it. Work on your self confidence, and learn to "sell" that. Men will treat you how you show them to, and showing them that you aren't worthy can lead to toxic things. Change your thought process lady! You ARE beautiful.
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