Mar 02, 2018, 10:35pm
My heart is aching, and it may be my fault.
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I have a long distance relationship, at the beginning the guy was really nice and interesting, he works as a cop.

We used to videochat a bit each week, I knew he was busy.

But recently I was added to a fb chat group with him through another fb group we were both in. I haven't talked in that group at all, so he may not even know I'm there yet, it's a slytherin group.

The man has been super busy lately, always tired, with migraines and stuff, so I get that he may like to relax. But he forgets about me, and only tries to talk to me and say nice things when I get mad.

We haven't videochat in quite a while, and today these slytherin guys tell him they want a group chat, he says that after work he'll change and chat all night! And he even flirts with a girl!

This is a guy I tell "good day" and "good night" everyday, the one that receives a picture of me every couple of days, I ask him questions, try to know him, and he doesn't do the same.

Now he is talking to this girl like "oh, you noticed my white ass ;-)' while she says she couldn't miss it, right on my fucking face.

And he is like super available for them, but not for me.

And the worst part is, I FEEL GUILTY FOR BEING MAD!

Please tell if I should be guilty, if I am overreacting, or please knock me out of my stupid bubble, but I need to talk to someone, I'm literally crying in anger right now.

Thank you for reading
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Pretty Fanny
Mar 03, 2018, 04:12am

He wants you to think it's your fault so that you apologise for (rightfully) calling out behaviour that hurts you. It sounds like you're not getting back what you're putting in to this relationship and to be very honest I'd reconsider if it's worth both the effort and the mental anguish he's putting you through. You deserve better.
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Mar 03, 2018, 05:37am

Kick him to the curb. A relationship should be two people meeting each other halfway and putting in an equal effort. Sounds like he is keeping you handy for his amusement when it suits him.
Edited by battleangel on Mar 03, 2018, 05:37am
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Mar 03, 2018, 10:22am

He is a moron.
Cut ties and don't look back. People like that are of no benefit to your well being whatsoever.

Don't let yourself feel at fault for his blatant ignorance.
Edited by Rasputin on Mar 03, 2018, 10:22am
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Mar 03, 2018, 02:01pm

He childish, lots of guys are. But that is probably just who he is. If you like him being that way, fine. But don't think he is going to stop being who he is, and become somebody different, somebody who isn't childish.
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Creepy Old Fucker
Mar 05, 2018, 12:52pm

Play distant. Don't talk to him until he initializes it. Even then don't say much. If he cares he'll ask what's wrong. Maybe he doesn't have a lot of local friends and just likes being socialable on yak forums. Long distance relationships are a bad thing to begin with anyway. Slowly drift away and see what you can find closer to you.
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Mar 05, 2018, 08:50pm

Cops have the highest domestic violence rate babe, so you dodged a bullet
Mar 07, 2018, 01:39am

Nah don't feel bad, the guy sounds like an asshole. Like if your dating someone, all your focus should be on that one person not a polygamy kind of mindset. You should not feel bad nor guilty about the stuff he does wrong, so kick his ass to the curb and find someone who will treat you with the same trust and respect you will treat them with.
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Mar 08, 2018, 06:17pm

Hun, there are emotional and sanguines in this world. Regardless of how you think you should feel he is using you for misery energy with or without trying.

He enjoys attention. You wanted love. My advice, pull ylur head out of your bumm and smell his shit pile before it's to late.

You should be enraged that a supposed lover is actively flirting. You are not wrong to be mad, at yourself, the world or him.
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Mar 11, 2018, 07:43pm

Listen to all the previous comments, maybe best to try and find a local boyfriend :-)?
Mar 12, 2018, 02:47am

dump the chump and move on with your life

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