So this is a not-so-not-personal issue, and I just was wondering your thoughts:
If penetration was impossible and your partner did not enjoy anal or oral sex, but the relationship was very serious otherwise, what would YOU do? Not care about sex anymore? Get REALLY creative? Be a shallow dipface (yes, I totally just said dipface) and break up with them? Think some thoughts and park 'em in this thread;D
Oilers: Cool that you felt comfortable enough to say you are a virgin.....
I think sex is overrated, but that's just my disenfranchised view,
I have noticed in these forums that people create all these fake profiles just to talk in forums and that many of these profiles have low ratings, damage points and suspensions.....quite funny....
"Sometimes the heart cries in cascading sunsets and sometimes it cries under the darkness of the new moon....
but it always cries in the hearts of the beloved..."
...Something very naive about cheating - crossing the sex taker - what do they think they're doing? Whenever one cheats or assumes cheating, the joke is really on the one cheating, why? Disruption of the internal vibrations of the cheater and assuming something above... - No real personal enjoyment on one or the other when cheating - it's an impersonal level which can always be recovered providing you know how, then the cheated one at some point will know how to reverse the act for his or her own advantage. How's that? - Certain things I know about electromagnetic vibrations within connected and reconnected with Wicca rhythm. # This is what generally happens to tight couples when they come of age, so slowly and really then HELL to keep.
What is lacking in modern society is what orientals knew and know today but less - the accountability of well-being in a general sense of self-awareness that pays and it gets to be known why it pays really - not to tamper with exaggerated sexual expression with an attitude of concluding idol settled being in feelings, and because of what gets to be known at large concerning personal ID and health plus strength.
Orientals had pride in real persona as if ever to stay, why and how? Yang-rhythm that survives dead. How do I know this? Seek really hard and you shall find!
I'm celibate by choice. I feel that sex is just like any other drug, and I've had addiction problems with drugs in the past. I sublimate through music, exercise, and my other hobbies. also, the best sex is all in the mind like what Andy Warhol said lol
I feel that the growing acceptance of casual of sex is what's fucking up society today. and then you add in Internet porn to the mix, I have no idea WTF will happen in the future
"the best sex is all in the mind like what Andy Warhol said lol"
Theres a bit more to it then the mental side of carnal activities, though that is important as it incorporates attitude, enthusiasm, being considerate, experience, knwoing when to be dominant, or submissive as is required based on partner, the know how of when to change and diversify the sequence.
But theres obvious physical elements for such a physical at that allow for what you, or your partner at the time would consider good quality fornication. Theres natural talent, flexibility, natural lubrication and friction, stamina and physical cardio vascular fitness. Then you have the loose/tight element, I`ll leave that one at that.
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I understand all of physical aspects of it, but that is just a fleeting moment. I don't think that brief moment of pleasure outweighs all the benefits from storing your life force.
Eventually you'll lose interest and move on to the next person or novelty, just like a drug. it is not eternal. do you wonder why orgasm feels so good? you are creating life at that moment. think about that. i don't consider myself a slave to biology..
anyway if your interested, check out the benefits of Brahmacharya, it may open your mind
I politely decline your offer, though you have an interesting point of view on sex. I`ll not argue against it, but know that it comes from the mind of a very different person.
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I'm beginning to think I'll never find someone who can actually love me, and not just lust for me. I want love, not sex. Sex just doesn't matter to me. It actually disgusts me to an extent. I honestly believe another relationship is about to end. </3 Whatever.
Not to be condescending, but you're 21. You have your whole life to find love. I'm 23 and I'm not fussed that I haven't found it. I mean, I'm dating somebody but we're nowhere close to the love stage, we're in lust.
If sex disgusts you, do you really think a relationship is the right thing for you at the moment?
That's my point though - Sex is an integral part of almost all adult relationships. It's not the most important thing, but it's a very important part, unless you're asexual (in which case you should probably date somebody else who's asexual).
If you don't want to have sex, you simply aren't in a position to form an adult, romantic relationship right now.
I am not asexual, but I do consider myself antisexual. It is very hard to find another person who does not want sex. I would love to date someone who is asexual, but I don't know how to meet an asexual person.
Sometimes when people are afraid of physical intimacy, of geting physical with another person, it can point back to being insecure about one`s body, personal fears and anxiety over acts of the carnal variety, it can be a lack of confidence.
Once you feel better about yourself, you can step past insecurities and inner fears, then sex is something you can engage in more readily and easily.
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if you really love each other,no sex doesnt matter.
if any of you had an accident and cant have sex etc than would the other one leave his/her partner and go and find someone else?
than where is love,where is fidelity,you know love is fidelity.
but you just datye with someone just for sex than you can leave your partner if you dont enjoy
I'm actually a person who, doesn't want sex.
Twenty years old, virgin, and never had any sexual contact, I openly tell anyone interested in me I do not allow any sexual contact even after years.
Downside; every girl so far is suddenly isn't interested.
I don't care either.
I'd rather go off walk in the park, dinner together, give her flowers. Just being very romantic and what not.
You`l be lonely for a long time then, while you`re mates are adding more notches to their belts, or enjoying their girlfriends and wives, that coming to the fray in topics of conversation with your friends tends to sting a lonely man on the best of days. Get out there and meet other women, get your rocks off, sly them all till you meet the right one you`re compatible with.
Sex often begets stronger emotional feelings with your spur of the moment, impulsive fornication partner. Often what starts as a physical attraction, leading on to sexual desire and ending that first sequence in rampant sexual conquest, can lead to endearing qulities being found in your sexual partner, the more times she comes round for a bootie call, or you head round to her little cat den after a night of hard drinking with the lads. Friends with benefits often start off as a drunken night`s fornication and progressively lead on to a mutual relationship of the romantic kind.
Life without sex is a lifestyle where your hard drive gets clotted up with free porn you aquire steadily and amasses to large quantities. Thats a lot of premediated masturbation. Thats not a lifestyle I would willingly choose for any person unless under pain of death. Its one thing to alienate yourself from many of your friends as well. And I suspect most guys that claim to be semi celbate by choice, are actually celibate because they have no choice.
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"You`l be lonely for a long time then, while you`re mates are adding more notches to their belts."
Fine with me, there's more to life than meaningless sex with people I don't care about.
Obviously I'm fine with it, thanks.
I've never been one for "adding notches to my belt", seems like a boring way to go through life.
Every time i go out with friends women approach me, I guess it's different when you could more or less take your pick, seems less important then, to have meaningless sex.
To add to that, there's only one woman out there worth my time and effort, and memories of that are better than the reality of fucking random women or getting in to some mundane relationship with someone I just kind of like a little.
So...you still havn`t gotten over your ex wife who left you for another man, maybe time to move on and go for something younger and more nubile. Not a healthy attitude to relationships. Theres allways prettier women with better personalitites out there.
If you can infact get other women, like you so claim, then do it, because gigs and gigs of pre mediated masturabation via porn is no substitute for the real thing.
"Every time i go out with friends women approach me, I guess it's different when you could more or less take your pick, seems less important then, to have meaningless sex. "
Wrong, wrong and wrong again. Being able to choose, means you dont go home with a fatty, or other unpleasant looking one nighters. Women and men who have enough going for them as an overall package presented on the night can still pick their cut of meat and still have meaningless sex.
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"If you can infact get other women, like you so claim, then do it."
What part of "I do not want to" are you not getting?
Simply because you would have sex with anything that would have you does not mean that everyone should share that desire/view.
"Wrong, wrong and wrong again. Being able to choose, means you dont go home with a fatty."
I wouldn't have to, should I wish to go home with anyone, it's more attractive women that usually show interest, that you would assume otherwise without any evidence is hilarious.
I suspect my viewpoint/abstinence challenges your fragile ego on some level, as you seem to be one of those people that wishes to define themselves by "sexual conquest", otherwise there is no reason at all for you to even comment on it or take any interest in it.
You like to fuck around, that's fine doesn't affect me, you go fuck around and live how you wanna live, I'll keep to my own desires and principles.
"So...you still havn`t gotten over your ex wife who left you for another man"
Don't speak of what you know nothing about. That is not what happened.
"Sex often begets stronger emotional feelings with your spur of the moment, impulsive fornication partner. "
Is that even possible? Once they've shown you how easily they just give it all up to you, is it even possible to think of them as anything more than a toy you will most surely get bored of?
And yes, I just began this sentence with a conjunction so you KNOW I must be right.
Adult relationships, as you know, are complicated things, the shared intimacy, the physicality, the showing of vulnerability, can trigger all manner of emotional responses with men and women, leading to different resolutions.
Even a sordid, drunken one night stand can sometimes lead to better, deeper things. Sometimes theres someone in your collective social circles, someone you have an eye on, someone who may have an eye for you as well, for whatever reason things dont go so smoothly with the natural acts of conversationalism, because you, or her may be shy, or feel they dont know each other well enough to approach and show a more brazen exposure to the fact they, or you have picked up on the mutual attraction. There may be chemistry, but for whatever reason you dont make a move to show how you feel, to get to know them better. One day you might see them at the club you frequent, or be at a party, one of you have had a few drinks, loosened up, stripped back the former reservations and inhibitions. Someone makes a move, you talk, you converse, theres a spark...one thing leads to another and one of you takes the other home. Afterwards the connection, the chemistry, the spark may be stronger and good things lead from that.
Like many things in life, impulsive behaviour in regards to sex can have other factors involved, things ofthat matter can be unpredictable and many varieties of resolutions may come to be.
I`ve had one night stands that were just that, stuff of the physical realm and nothing more, simple sexual gratification with no lasting effect, I`ve had one night stands that turned into good friendships, I`ve even had two one night stands that lead into long term relationships. I personally think life is filled with random encounters with unexpected results not easily predicted with well informed predictions and educated guesses.
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Yes, it's a discussion, and what you're doing right now is belittling somebody for choosing not to have sex. You can disagree with their view, which you did. There's absolutely no need to continue to berate them for choosing not to have sex.
I have to question what your intention was when you decided to offer unwanted, unsolicited "advice" and suggestions while dismissing/attacking my ability to get sex should I want it.
