WELCOME
YOU MUST BE 18 TO JOIN!!!!!!
17 By Staff Approval Only
BEST WHEN VIEWED WITH INTERNET EXPLORER.
This is where the Submissive come to find what they need and the Dominant get what they want
Membership is exclusive and based on Activity and Attitude.
Salute pictures required for membership approval.
Follow all the rules of the cult or you will be banned.
Be sure to join our Sister Cult as well for all your educational needs and information..The_BDSM_Academy
CONTEST WINNERS
Winner for Week Ending July 14
Best Self Bondage Pic
Michael AKA Lord_of_Fortune
Winner for Week Ending July 21
Most creative pic of current or former pet in bondage
Miss Angel
Winner for Week Ending July 28th
Best impression of the opposite sex in a one pose picture
Michael AKA Michelle AKA Lord of Fortune
Winner for Week Ending Sept 21
Best Homemade Toy
Michael AKA Lord_of_Fortune
Featured Member
Could Be You
"Keep Active and The Featured Member could be You/you."
"[Proud to be a Featured Member] :)"
Cult Rules
1. You must be 18 to join. 17 with approval. Salute pics are required for identity purposes.
2. This is a mature cult, keep it that way.
3. Respect will be given at all times. ALL MASTERS AND MISTRESSES WILL BE ADDRESSED AS SIR OR MA'AM OR MASTER OR MISTRESS. NOTE: Mistress Chey HATES Ma'am..So Mistress or Mistress Chey
4. NO NUDE PICS....YET
5. Be active and remember this is a family. Non-Active people and attitudes will be banned from the cult.
6. Post in the introduction thread first.
7. Only the Head Mistress may make new topics. You must get permission. Start a thread....get banned
8. This is not a game! This is a lifestyle. If you wish to find a roleplay game of S&M. Go join another cult.
9. The Head Mistress has final say in everything. If you do not like it, then leave.
Dominant Lifestyle
Being a Dom
A Dominant is certain of Themselves, confident in Their place in society. They cherish and adore the opposite sex and revel in their presence. They are giving, caring, loving, generous and understanding.
When a Dominant acquires a new submissive, They cherish them, discover them, slowly possess them, captures their heart, They are their owner and takes responsibility for their care and well being. They gently push Their sub, always ready to show them that they are strong, that their limits are not what they believe them to be, that they can be taken further. In this, the Dominant reveals to the submissive their own confidence, their own levels of self esteem, through submission they are freed.
As a Dominant learns Their new submissive, an understanding takes place. They sense Their subs desires, their needs, and their passions. They encourages them and is strong for them when they cannot be strong for themselves. With this new knowledge, the Dominant takes care of Their submissive, always giving what the submissive needs but not necessarily what they presume they need.
It is the Dominants responsibility to care for, to protect and love Their submissive. If they are exhausted, They will allow them to rest. If they are scared, They will comfort them. If they need affection, They will hold them. These things They do willingly, because They know them. They understand them as no one else does, sometimes even themselves. They have seen into their soul and held it in Their hands.Their mind is their Dom's to read, to know. Their body is Theirs to feel. Their heart is Theirs to caress. They become their Dom's most treasured possession.
The Dominant does not take away the submissives identity, but allows them to grow into their own being, their own likeness; their submission is not a vehicle of punishment or hatred, but one of love and development. They are given the room to come into their own, under their Owner's care, like a flower that flourished under the sun's warmth. They radiate from their Dom's love and devotion. They become a rose; a beautiful being that knows they are loved and cared for.
The characteristics of a Dominant are: strong, able, confident, loving, caring, encouraging, and gentle. Punishment is only handed out lovingly, yet firmly. The Dominant is not angry; there is no place for anger with punishment. The Dominant is teaching. Punishment and discipline need not be physical, it can be psychological. It is not done out of harshness or hostility, it is done out of love and forgiveness.
A sub comes to them unsure of their place. With their guidance, they quickly learn what is expected of them. With this learning, they begin to give more of themselves, of their soul, until they have given all to their Dominant. There is no power given up, no control taken away. The Dom takes what the sub wants to give and the Dominant holds the gift in their heart, always sharing, always giving back what they need. An immense measure of trust is built between the two: the submissive must trust their Dominant completely in order to give them so much of themselves and the Dominant must trust their submissive in order for them to accept it.
It could be said that the Dominant holds all the responsibilities: however, many of the submissives responsibilities are subtle and overlooked. They must believe and trust that what their Dom does is for the good of all concerned and learn to never question Their motives. If their Dom orders them to do something, they will do so happily, and without embarrassment, because that is what their Dominant wants. They will not harbor any resentments or guilt from this action. They trust their Dominant.
If a Dominant does not heed a submissive's perceived limit, then an important trust is broken. Of course, in a new relationship safe words should be used, it must be taken slowly, so that the trust and understanding are able to grow. With perseverance, however, the two can reach a point where the Dominant knows how far the submissive can physically, emotionally, and spiritually go and the submissive can trust their Dominant's decisions and take them both to a sacred place of divine exchange.
The submissive is a wonderful life with the right Dominant. With Them, they will grow emotionally and their being will expand. They will become what they are deep within, and learn to love freely and unconditionally. The Dominant also becomes the person They feel within Their soul. They grow powerful not through the loss of Their submissives identity, but rather due to Their care their submissive grows, they are born, they create themselves to their Dom's demands; The Dom therefore expands from their power to create change in their sub's life. This is the eternal dance, the symbiosis, the energetic connection that only those engaged in a D/S courtship understand. The Dominant is the object of their subs worship. Through their Dom a sub sees themselves as their Dom does. They are beautiful, perfect, submissive, and above all others, they were chosen and belong to their Dom! Submissive Lifestyles
Mist/Mast Vs. Dominant
In the BDSM venue there are Doms and Dommes, which refer to a male and female ‘Top’, in relation to a ‘bottom’ or ‘sub’.
The difference between a Dom/me and a Master/Mistress is profound and absolute. A Dom only appears to be in control of a situation, in reality he is not.
The BDSM venue uses ‘safe-words’ by which the sub (submissive) may indicate that what the Dom is doing is unacceptable, hurting, or just simply something that the sub does not wish to do. In a Master/Mistress/Slave relationship, there are no safe-words.
The Master/Mistress is truly in charge, in all particulars. The Master/Mistress owns the slave, the Master/Mistress makes the decisions, the Master/Mistress commands, and the slave obeys.
There is a vast difference here in the level of power which a Master/Mistress wields, versus a Dom/me, and so there is a commensurate level of responsibility that a Master/Mistress has, which a Dom/me does not.
A Dom/me is only pretending to be in control, to satisfy sexual appetite, while a Master/Mistress actually is in control, satisfying not on sexual appetite but emotional and spiritual needs as well, on an absolute basis.
A Master/Mistress owns the entire slave, not just their time in bed. He/She owns their body, their mind, their emotions, their very soul, and yes, even their thoughts.
His/Her ownership is total and absolute as they belong to him/her. Likewise, his/her responsibility is absolute, and it is critical that the Master/Mistress is both honorable, and intelligent.
A stupid man/woman cannot be a proper Master/Mistress to a slave. They would not understand the totality of their responsibility let alone the accompanying power. The slave’s very life is in the hands of the Master/Mistress.
This profound difference between Dom/me and Master/Mistress also explains the seemingly amazing amount of contempt from Gorean Masters for BDSM Doms. This is because the Doms pretend to have the control and power and responsibility of the Master, yet they are just puppets of the submissive, who actually has the last word.
The Difference between a Dom/Domme and a Master/Mistress is EXPERIENCE.
A Dom/Domme likes to be in charge a Master/Mistress wants total control.
AND only Mistress Chey or Miss Raven will decide if you are qualified.
You are welcome to apply in the Full Time Master / Mistress Position Thread.
DON'T LIKE IT .......YOU CAN LEAVE!
Submissive Vs Slave
So what is the difference between a submissive and a slave?
*A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not.
*A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which his/her Owner sets for them.
*A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains his/her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey his/her Master/Mistress at all times and then submits to the will of their owner at all times.
*A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
*A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property.
*A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed.
*A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at his/her Owners feet.
*A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.
*A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
*An unclaimed slave is a sub
Dominant, Sub and Switch List
-Dominants-
XxMistress_CheyxX
RavenPandorah
ODIUM_ANGEL
DJ_Reborn
ScarlettVamp
Argothpixie
Mistress-LadyX
Baahltres
Kaiel_says_shhhhh
Beautys_luck_charm
Darkaxman
PleasureFromPain
-Switch-
Nachtmann
triumphanddisaster
Preab-san-ol
pnub-x
sorted_affair
lilithdegrassi
Sereana_Never_Dies
vintagevamp
grrrbabygrrr
cashmp
-Sub-
Lord_of_Fortune
KrylonWolf
AngelOfSomeKind
BeautysDemise
BleedingXInXTheXDark
hopeless-X-heart
HxC_Giraffeman
PhantomGirl
preppy_sissy
shadowsheir
Sissygothstephanie
Cematra
